Your Perception is Your Reality — Monday Motivation






Happy Monday!

You ever notice how we get mad about the dumbest stuff? Like if your browser takes 4 seconds to load when you’re trying to get stuff done; our perception is that’s the worst possible thing…when in reality, it’s just one of our absurd first world problems we have no business complaining about. Imagine: in 1995 it only took 4 seconds to access a browser, compared to dialup speed. Our perception was that dialup access was fantastic–until we had something better to compare it to.  Dialup Internet was and will only be nothing more than dialup internet–but looking back in hindsight, we view it as slow because we are comparing it to something it is not.

I love what author Douglas Adams said about perspective:

“The fact that we live at the bottom of a deep gravity well, on the surface of a gas covered planet going around a nuclear fireball 90 million miles away and think this to be normal is obviously some indication of how skewed our perspective tends to be.”

Breaking my foot got me thinking a lot about relativeness.  The theory of relativity states that everything in our physical world is only made real by its relationship or comparison to something else, that nothing is good or bad, big or small until YOU relate it to something.

Immediately after my x ray, the technician told me I broke my foot and would be on crutches for 6 weeks! Two days later when I was getting my cast, the orthopedic told me I’d only have be on crutches for 2 weeks and walking by week 3; all of a sudden, crutches didn’t seem so bleak because my sentence was cut in thirds.

Then once I started walking, it was AWESOME when I compared it to being on crutches. Then after a few days, I couldn’t wait for my cast to be off.

I’m sure once my cast is off and I’m in a walking boot, it will be great. Then I’ll compare it to not being in a walking boot. Starting rehabilitation will be exciting until it isn’t and I want to be running again. And so it goes.

It’s the same when you lose a bunch of weight, then your body shifts as the amount of excess weight you have to lose becomes much less as you start to trade fat in for lean muscle. Now that’s the ideal (the only way to get lean), but the scale doesn’t move as fast while you are the most fit you’ve ever been. So you get frustrated because you are comparing not losing weight to when you were losing weight.

I remember back in college I thought I was so busy because I worked 15 hours a week and had 2-4 hours of classes per day.  Ha! Sure, that was busy compared to when I was in high school–but not to my current 80 work week!

Perception IS reality and perspective is EVERYTHING.

The only way for us to grow as humans is to raise our level of standard so in that sense, we need to compare where we are to where we want to be.

But we aren’t perfect. So our minds will make irrational judgments and we will find ourselves getting annoyed with what should be the privileges of our life.  But what if we could just be a little bit more self aware?

Next time you get down on yourself, you need to look at the facts and not stop until you come up with a list of good things–however many are needed to balance out the perception. It’s also good to have tangible reminders in your space, such as inspirational quotes, your before picture, your written “Why,” your workout session log, and so forth.

Where in your life are you frustrated about something? If you take a deeper look, you’ll find it’s only relative to some other comparison you made up.

Let go and move forward.

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